By Karen Best Wright, www.RaisingYourGrandchildren.com
I have had more than one grandparent write me about what to do or say to the grandchildren when the parent doesn't show up when they are suppose to visit. This can be oh so hurtful to the children. It can also put the grandparent in a very difficult spot of trying to explain "something" to the child. I believe, no matter how hard it is, it is best to not be negative about the parent. The children will be doubly hurt. Some grandparents have gotten to where they do not even tell the child the parent is going to visit, until she/he actually shows up. Some grandparents when asked questions they cannot not really answer, just respond with a simple, "I don't know sweetheart, but I love you and I am so glad you are here with me." The grandparent can't really solve many problems, but they can reassure the child that they love them dearly. Then do something enjoyable with the child to help the child experience happier feelings.
Karen Wright, B.S. Community Health Education