By Karen Best Wright, www.RaisingYourGrandchildren.com
Some time ago, I came across a series of comments by some very negative people about grandparents raising grandchildren. I pay little attention to people who just want to gripe and be negative. One person was going on about how grandparents should not raise their grandchildren because they are just enabling their own adult child.
It was obvious the person was merely venting and I clicked out of the site. So I cannot even tell you where I read it. However, sometimes that does happen I am sure. I received an email recently from a grandmother who is raising her grandson. She is at a loss at what to do. She isn't sure how to do right by her grandson, while she is concerned that she is enabling her own son. She asked my advice.
Wow! I don't really have any advice. This is really a tough one. While it really is important that we do what we can for our grandchildren, it is also important that we are not enabling our own child. By that I mean that we are continually coming to the rescue, when if we didn't they might actually get their act together and take care of their own children. I guess there probably are cases that we should step back and pray for the best. However, when it is necessary that we step in and help, we do need to learn to not let the adult child continue to be dependent on us, when they need to stand on there own feet and face their own consequenses.
If any of you out there have any good suggestions, I would love to hear them.